Friday, September 13, 2013

Understanding Pain

How To Build Stepping Stones ~ 1-2

Earlier I have shared about the tight connection of Integrity and Success. Once we realized this, we also begin to realized many things interconnected. Things that do not seem to be important to one's success image or success viewpoint. So we discard them as unnecessary unknowingly. And these Things build up on top of another.

And we learned from success gurus that to achieved success we must improve ourselves first. And self-improvement, we have learned in Success and Integrity, is basically restoring our Integrity or the restoration of it. And when we begin to do this, blessings in disguise also begins to happen which we would understand although a bit later, this is a phenomenon which is very similar to the law of attraction.

There are things that will help us further towards our goal of becoming whole. But we are more concerned here about things that hinders us, or diverts us towards this goal. These things I have learned, carries with it pain. Whether emotional pain or physical pain.

Pain: The Unusual Guage

Why pain?

I know of people who boasted of their material accumulations as evidenced of their success and blessing from heaven. But looking closely at them I see pain and sorrow. Of course money can ease up living, hoping to get one to cloud nine. But mostly this is not happening. Because they followed a flawed teaching. And just neatly packaged pain with ego trip and pleasure and material things pleasant to the senses, but numb the senses at the same time.

(Pro 10:22 The Scriptures 1998+)  The blessing of יהוה makes one rich, And He adds no pain with it.

We have already seen and can readily see where money, success, and wealth are used as the guage to measure one's progress. And many are lured into this trap, and failed, and in pain. Only few achieved the prize and yet later found out that it is just a wrap of the pain.

It does not mean, that material success brings with it pain. Pain and pleasure oscillates and sometimes fused that the senses becomes numb.

Why pain?

Because pain, is actually an accurate guage of ones vulnerability to succumb to more pain.


One source of pain is disconnection from loved ones, family and true friends, or sometimes the fear of disconnection. I have seen an example of this that eventually translate into a complicated illness. These people become victims of disconnection.

Please note, illness only develops when the pain becomes chronic, or if it happens very often.

And more often than one would realize, the culprit would leave without explanations to spare the others the trouble and the pain with which one would cause. Although the disconnection is painful, one would learn to seek to cover it up with pleasure because the pain with which one's conscience has stricken one, that one so endures is already unbearable that disconnection becomes a welcome option. And all these one would do unwittingly.

One example of this is we hurt the ones we loved by finding fault so that disconnection becomes a likely and an easy option in order to escape the hidden transgression we had committed, that we wish to stay hidden.

We want to disconnect because our conscience no longer can bear the pain. And all these is done unwittingly.

Couples out there, beware when your partner is finding fault at you, because a transgression of commitment has been committed against you. Now that you know, if you try to pry it out, the more fault finding you will get in return.

But know this also, if your partner comes out in all honesty to you, and acknowledges the transgressions made against you. This is cool and it will not happen again. It should be forgiven. More about this in How To Handle Pain.

But if your partner does not come out, and whether you knew or not about the transgression. Your partner will eventually leave you, because the pain with which your partner bears becomes unbearable.

And in so doing your partner will trip a domino to effect another being in pain that will in turn effect another in pain and yet another in pain and so it goes on. These are collateral damages. And their pain may be hard to deal with specially with the children experiencing the separation of their parents. Which is why the children of separated parents are likely to repeat the same separation again in their lives, if these are not handled properly. But today, with the media we have; experiences in the shows can become one's own experience as well and be buried in memory as well and in fact, so well that can be attached with triggers, specially pleasurable triggers. And thereby may influence and take control of one at one point of one's life.

Collateral Pain

This kind of pain is deeply buried hence, very hard to recognize and deal with. These are pain effected by other people's pain, hence collateral damages.

An example I mentioned earlier is from separation of the parents. Another would be abuse, verbal and physical abuse.

They also receive sympathies and communicates with different people -- i.e. parents, siblings, relatives, neighbors, friends, enemies, school mates, and exposure to television and movies.

One subtle example is painful movies and television shows. These have the ability to effect pain in the viewers. More so if the movie is labeled true accounts a bandwagon marketing is in effect. Once pain are induced in the viewers, triggers are also installed. And these triggers can be any form in one's surroundings at the time of viewing.

If one is not able to handle these kind of movies, one will eventually experience the same experience as in the movie viewed when the trigger is tripped. And it will be tripped at any moment in time sooner or later, after the viewing.

These kinds of pain are attached with so many triggers because the victims normally receives many messages in various forms: visual, audio, tactile, kinetic, in short -- in all senses.

And these messages are mixed with white lies which will be installed as triggers. For example, if a movie is labeled "based on true accounts" -- when a victim is triggered by this kind of movie, the phrase "true accounts" rings true as absolute and the phrase "based on" does not mean anything at all. The phrase "true account" is the white lie. Because no movie can ever depict a true account. Hence the phrase "based on" is prefixed. But people when triggered shall no longer consider this. Everything becomes true, because triggers are already installed. If it were not true, the mechanism becomes messed up, and the individual flares up to defend the account.


The human mind however is very resilient, for amidst all these, it would seek a way out to survive. And it will survive, however its survival mechanism is filled with checkpoints that hinders the individual. These checkpoints are triggers.

For the painful experience has created shadow monsters and associated it with triggers so that one would automatically react to avoid the shadow monsters. These shadow monsters are perceived to be harmful and detrimental to one's survival. These are actually installed to protect the individual's ability to survive. However, the opposite is true.

A shadow monster is perceived unconsciously by the mind through the associated triggers. Triggers were installed during the first event, and the succeeding related events that happened since then. And these events where induced by the triggers as well. So that triggers builds up over time into a chain, like standing domino pieces neatly placed together. When a trigger is tripped all triggers in the chain will be tripped. Just like when one standing domino falls, all the rest falls as well. When this happens, the individual loses control and the mechanism takes control of the individual. The actions become automatic as is recorded in the chain.

These chain reaction however is also subject to interruptions from outside forces and when the threat is perceived to have been dealt with. Then the individual is back in business -- is in control again. If the chain reaction is not interrupted it continues and become a chronic condition. Today this is called paranoia, neurotic disorder, and the like depending on how deep one is in the chain.

We can see that this mechanism is not very helpful at all when not dealt with properly. Proper communication with these peoples is the medium by which they can be helped. The goal is for them to be able to take control. And this will manifest in understanding, conscious reasoning, interest, among others, by them.


Another source of pain is failure. Failure brings with it a lot of emotional pain.

And often times prohibit one to move forward, even to take another step. To avoid the same from happening again. And often times not knowing that one is avoiding an entirely different and new experience. Because with pain everything looks similar if not the same, even if it is entirely new.

At other times we believed we are able to handle it, and believed we are really handling it, by avoiding the pain, and avoiding the people that causes the pain. Not aware of the actions that are the exact opposite of properly handling it. And these oftentimes translate into repeating the same painful experience again just in different stage and scenario, and eventually surrender and acceptance.

The Stumbling Blocks

These painful memories become the stumbling blocks of one's progress when not dealt with properly.

Painful memories are created according to one's perception. And may not necessarily be the correct perception of an actual event. Sometimes pain is induced to another in order to cover up a more painful experience one is experiencing, and in order to share the pain.

Sympathy and Pain

Sometimes our intent to help another being who is in pain is unknowingly the very way that installs a trigger so that one will repeat the same experience over and over again. One way of unconsciously doing this is giving sympathy to the one who is in pain. This way pain become attached with pleasure. One can miss this kind of pleasure, and when triggered one will revert back to the same painful experience again unwittingly and again until it becomes a chronic condition.

Pain Packaged With Pleasure As A Weapon

And most often by the powers that be, they would use pain packaged with pleasure and things that boasts one's ego, that pain no matter how deep it is will be so hard to avoid and become an acceptable or welcomed consequence. This is what they employ to destroy their opponents and still look nice and cool in the surface. We can observe this in politics and showbiz. And the special military elite forces use this all the time.

They praise and applaud their opponents at the same time they denounce them and condemn them. And even if their denouncement and condemnation is untruthful, none of it really matters. For the objective is to destroy them morally, completely that none would consider them anymore. If one took the bait and use the legal system to fight against libel and false accusations, it would only served to fire up more rage and anger, this is also their objective, and then suck one dry while still on cloud nine. When one realizes this, if ever this happens, it would normally be too late to recoup and one is already rendered incapable. Our adversary is very clever than most ever come to realized.

And the masses are bombarded to no end with "pain and pleasure" images, arts, books, poems, movies, talk shows, and even teachings that even the respected gurus proliferate to add more injury to an already injured being. Teaching "to use pain and pleasure instead of it using you". Which means it is OK to have pain and pleasure. Every one of us is exposed to these hypnotic creations, to prepare us for the attack of the darkness by using pain packaged with pleasure. That when that attack hit us it might become hard to deflect it, if at all possible.

I would not be surprised if we can hear the same messages echoed in Christendom pulpits today. Hand in hand with lawlessness -- that the law/Torah is already abolished.

Grotesque as it may sound, try hitting image search with Google with the keywords "pain and pleasure" and see for yourselves. I myself have caught some triggers firing at me. In a moment, I will share how to learn to recognize and handle this triggers.

This is also the very tool used by the powers that be to deceive us. Feeding us with movies and shows that gives us simple pleasures and boasts our ego tripping. That what they would do to induced pain -- i.e. reduced our personal rights -- can be easily buried with pleasure and ego trip each and every time we see a movie or show.

We can readily observed many examples of these in any government any where in the world today. Now that you know, guard and prepare yourselves for the inevitable to happen. If you do not know what it is, it means, you have been living too long in the dark. It is high time for you to find some light no matter how little it is, and follow the light.

Pain Triggers Takes Hold and Control

Painful memories can attached with other memories either with pain or without pain and creates triggers. And these memories become chained one to another with triggers.

Triggers can be any form -- music, color, clothes, smell, action, personality, a feeling, a thought, even another memory, and also words and phrases. It can totally be unrelated to the actual memory. Triggers are continually created and added up every time the painful memory surfaced and take control.

And these painful memories have their way of controlling one into experiencing the same familiar experience over and over again, in different stages, and in different scenarios, and in varying degrees.

And in most cases preventing us from having peace and serenity. But we also device a pleasure trip called success, success in accumulating material things, we do this as a coping mechanism, but it does not result in peace and serenity either. But instead in addiction, or in uncontrollable urges and impulses.

How Pain Takes Hold and Control

Pain starts when one starts to react to situation, example: one becomes antagonistic. At this stage pain is tolerated but if antagonism continuous it becomes anger and rage and madness, then it turns into fear, then sadness and grief, then apathy, then death. This is just a very simple situation.

Another Example: One forgets some things and then remarks -- "you" did not remind me. This is the start of antagonism, if the exchange continuous in this way it will progress into anger and rage and so on. If "you" in this case, do not react to this situation. "You" bring another one out of this situation and into a stark realization of one's forgetting "it", if not one's forgetfulness.

Note: forgetting is present tense and forgetfulness is a condition developed by constant repetition, and this can be chronic condition. If one does not recognize the present happening and this condition, this experience will keep on repeating and installing standing dominoes or triggers that when tripped will affect and activate other triggers -- other dominoes.

When one start to react, the present experience become attached with pain and will be recorded in one's memory with pain. And any form perceived at this moment becomes a trigger for the future event. Hence a repeat shall happen again although in different stage and in different scenario, but the same experience.


Many won't know they are under the control of pain. However at some stage one could become aware of the cause of pain.

But know this, and be aware: reaction is the characteristic that pain has taken control of one and is in control of one.

And when you know that you react, that is awareness, that is realization. When that happens, you are empowered to take corrective actions.

So far, we are clear about pain in its natural form. And we have also seen briefly how pain can attached with sympathy and with pleasure and ego trip, and how pain can be a collateral result such as from a movie or talk show.

The most subtle of all painful experiences are pleasures and ego trip that lead into pain. This is basically the stuff of the darkness. The powers of darkness lures us with the pleasures of this world that leads to pain: broken families, failures, sickness, and sorrows. James 1:14,15, Heb 3:13 And we yield to these powers that be because of the pleasures and the ego trips. Rom 6:16

(Jas 1:14 The Scriptures 1998+)  But each one is enticed when he is drawn away by his own desires and trapped.

We are enticed because we have not recognized the triggers.

(Jas 1:15 The Scriptures 1998+)  Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin. And sin, when it has been accomplished, brings forth death.
(Heb 3:13 The Scriptures 1998+)  but encourage one another daily, while it is called “Today,” lest any of you be hardened by the deceivableness of sin.
(Rom 6:16 The Scriptures 1998+)  Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves servants for obedience, you are servants of the one whom you obey, whether of sin to death, or of obedience to righteousness?

Attributes of Pain

Pain is from the past, pain is a memory (1Jn 3:8), pain is triggered (James 1:14), And pain is the result of sin (Gen 3:16-19). Disobedience is transgression, transgression is sin, and sin is the transgression of the law and/or the Torah of YHWH (James 4:17, 1Jn 3:4, 1Jn 5:17). And who commits sin is of the devil (1Jn 3:8). And sin results in death. Gen 2:17 For the wages of sin is death. Rom 6:23, 1 Co 15:56

(1Jn 3:8 The Scriptures 1998+)  The one doing sin is of the devil, because the devil has sinned from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of Elohim was manifested: to destroy the works of the devil.1 Footnote: 1See Titus 2:14.
(Jas 1:14 The Scriptures 1998+)  But each one is enticed when he is drawn away by his own desires and trapped.

The origin of pain:

(Gen 3:16 The Scriptures 1998+)  To the woman He said, “I greatly increase your sorrow and your conception – bring forth children in pain. And your desire is for your husband, and he does rule over you.”
(Gen 3:17 The Scriptures 1998+)  And to the man He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘Do not eat of it’: “Cursed is the ground because of you, in toil you are to eat of it all the days of your life,
(Gen 3:18 The Scriptures 1998+)  and the ground shall bring forth thorns and thistles for you, and you shall eat the plants of the field.
(Gen 3:19 The Scriptures 1998+)  “By the sweat of your face you are to eat bread until you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken. For dust you are, and to dust you return.”

Knowing right ruling and not doing it, is transgression:

(Jas 4:17 The Scriptures 1998+)  To him, then, who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.
(1Jn 3:4 The Scriptures 1998+)  Everyone doing sin also does lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness

Not following the Torah of YHWH is unrighteousness:

(1Jn 5:17 The Scriptures 1998+)  All unrighteousness is sin, and there is a sin not unto death.

The result of sin is death:

(Gen 2:17 The Scriptures 1998+)  but do not eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for in the day that you eat of it you shall certainly die.”
(Rom 6:23 The Scriptures 1998+)  For the wages of sin is death, but the favourable gift of Elohim is everlasting life in Messiah יהושע our Master.
(1Co 15:56 The Scriptures 1998+)  And the sting of death is the sin, and the power of the sin is the Torah.

The "power of the sin is the Torah" means, without the Torah -- often times translated as Law in the Bible, we will continue to be ignorant of sin, hence we would continually be doing erroneous actions without our knowledge of it, we would be hopelessly buried continually in our sinful actions.

Therefore pain is the result of disobedience, the result of the transgression of the Torah of YHWH. Pain is the result of Sin and the wages of sin is death.

Please proceed to ~ How To Handle Pain ~

YHWH Bless You!!!

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